A Divorced Girl’s Purpose

I recently picked up my Kindle again (since there is not as much stuff to do nowadays) and have been reading Love Does by Bob Goff, Harry Potter and The Road Back to You, which is a book about the enneagram. I am really wanting to use my time being single as a time to better myself, learn more about myself, and grow my relationship with God.

I realized I get bored of books kind of easily and I haven’t finished any of those 3 so I might as well start another one right? I was sitting on my couch today as I saw my bookshelf and began to think about what book I should start. Single, Dating, Engaged and Married by Ben Stuart caught my eye but I quickly dismissed it. “Oh great book! But I have already read it. What else could I try?” is what I thought in my head but then I rewound and thought about it again.

Okay yes Morg, you read it but what stage of life were you in? It was last year in the Christian Family class and you were about 3 months away from your WEDDING. Oh boy. Hmm. Well yeah my life stage was pretty much the opposite of what I am in now. 

It is interesting because last time I read this book, it was for my class and I literally only read the Single and Dating chapters to pass the test. I could care LESS what that information said in those chapters because, and I very vivid have a memory of thinking this while sitting outside my class, I NEVER WILL BE SINGLE AGAIN. WOOOOO!!!

Man oh MAN was I ever wrong because I currently am single as a sour-cream-and-onion PRINGLE. This thought all happened in about 5 seconds in my brain this afternoon while being quarantined. Last time I read this book, I was 100% only focused on the married part. My engagement was only going to be about 3 more months and then it was the wedding, so what is the point in focusing on the engagement part?

I picked up the book today and started to read about being single. I am SO excited to read this book and really focus on the words. What is single life like? I literally don’t even know. I mean I have been single for officiallyyyy 6 months and 1 day. I also would like to point out I have survived being divorced for a solid ½ of a year as of yesterday. This is weird.

I honestly never would have guessed I would have been divorced right now. But I am. I am divorced and I can’t do a thing about it. Well I mean I probably could somehow, but I am just letting go and letting God handle my life. When He wants to bring a guy into my life, I am all for it. But for now, I am going to learn about being single and what I can be doing now do serve God.

How can I live for him during my singleness? What is my purpose as a single girl who loves God and wants to share His word? This happens to be an entire chapter called “The Purpose of Singleness”, so I just know this book will have such good info for me in this life stage.

Ephesians 2:10 says that we are God’s handiwork and we are created in Christ Jesus to do good works. I want to do good works! That is my purpose right now. I want to do good. I can do good!

We have been talking in our youth group small groups about our purpose and it is just crazy how God lines up certain things to be so relevant in different aspects of my life. I will update my blog with a post on my reading of Single, Dating, Engaged and Married so check back soon!

Today I am praying for those of you that might be single or divorced and just don’t know what to do because that is me! It has been weird and sometimes lonely during this isolation period, but I am just trusting in God and His plan. I know He has big big plans for every one of His children! How can I pray for you? Drop a prayer request in the box below!