Rise and shine Morgan Leigh it is time for divorce court. You are 23 years old, have been married for a solid 4 months aaaand today that marriage is coming to an end, even though you do not want it. At all.
These are my exact thoughts as my alarm went off on the Tuesday in October. My friend Kirby (who I had known for a solid 4 weeks) was coming to pick me up and drive me to court. INSANE. I honestly could not believe that I was going to court...for a divorce. Ugh!
She asked me how I was doing and I honestly do not remember what I even said. I was so nervous. I had never done this! Who in the world knows what to expect?! Not me. I was lost. They don’t quite teach you “how to get divorced” or “what to expect in divorce court” in your undergrad years :)
We get into the right building (of course, we went into the WRONG building first. Hahaha what a day) and go through security and find our courtroom. I am a freak about being on time so we were definitely there an entire hour early. Our friend Mel met us there and we just sat and talked and prayed. A lot.
It was almost time for court so I asked Mel and Kirby to pray over me again. They did and of course, The Lord calmed my nerves. I was okay. It was going to be okay. We then decided to walk into the courtroom and wait. There was probably 40 people in there. UGH. I did start to get really nervous again, shaking and gripping Mel and Kirby’s hands as if my life depended on it.
They called our case and saw we were present and moved on. Thoughts in my mind: “okay now what” “do I go up there?” “Am I done?” “Do all of these people have to listen to me get divorced?” “Is that judge going to be nice or rude?” “WHAT DO I DO!”
I honestly do not remember how in the world we got there, but our court case was moved to another room. I was scared and thought this was a bad thing, but now as I am looking back, I AM SO THANKFUL. It was a super sweet nice lady as our judge and there literally NOBODY in the small courtroom!!! THANK. YOU. LORD. I did NOT want to be in front of all the people for this moment. Phew.
I walked up to the judge and did all the court stuff and said my name and agreed to the attorney and all that jazz. It was quick. There wasn’t much to do or say. I didn’t cry. I was proud of myself. I turned around and walked out of that courtroom as a newly-divorced 23-year-old girl in a new city, a solid 6 hours from home. My precious friends followed me out and we were done. It was over.
THIS WAS THE WEIRDEST FEELING. I didn’t cry. I do NOT have any idea how I managed that, but I was okay. Kirby had a playlist ready to go in the car and I was okay. I didn’t go to work, but I was okay. I spent the day with my friends, which was the best thing I didn’t know I absolutely needed.
I keep repeating "I was okay". You GUYS! HOW WAS I OKAY? I loved this man with my whole entire heart. And it was now all over. How was I okay? The only possible explanation is peace from The Lord. I mean seriously. It was amazing how present God was in my life that day.
I am thankful for Mel and Kirby today. I had been living away from my family for 4 months, and living “on my own” for a solid one month. I basically knew nobody the day I found out about my divorce, except for Kelsey…a blog on that sweet soul coming soon!
God has blessed me. He has blessed me more than I can even comprehend! I mean WHO goes to court with random girl they have known for not even a month. Mel and Kirby sure did! There were no questions asked. They supported me in every way I needed, and for that, I am so thankful.
I have so many precious friends down here, but they are the ones that have been there from the beginning of my singleness…literally. These are the friends that will ask me how I am doing, and then ask again to make sure I am being honest. They keep me accountable. They check on me. They are always down for a good time. Most importantly, they keep me encouraged in The Word. Find your Mel and Kirby.
I challenge you to look out for those who are new. Look out for those who are alone, like me. Who knows, maybe you will get the chance to support some girl in divorce court! It sure is an interesting experience. I was alone and lost in a big city and The Lord just amazingly blessed me with their friendship. I am so excited to write later on how I met Mel and Kirby, and so many others!
I pray that God will bless you and that you will be able to find many things to be thankful for during this holiday season. As always, I would love to be praying for you! Submit prayers in the homepage and I give you my word I will be praying over you daily.
xoxo,
Morgan Leigh
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