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Dating After Divorce

Quite a few people have asked me my thoughts on dating now that I am single. I wish there was a Bible verse that said “wait ___ months after your husband leaves you until you begin to date again”. I haven’t found that yet, so let me know if you have!


I recently saw a tweet from Brittany Dawn and it said, “fall in love with Jesus before you fall in love with someone else. The first one affects how well you do the second.” Okay YES. This hit home to me so much. I love how she worded this!


As I have mentioned before in my blogs, Jesus changed my life because of the divorce. I am okay because of God and the relationship we now have. I was broken during the divorce but then leaned on Him, and I am SO thankful for this. I am so far from perfect, but I am so much better than I was before. I didn’t put God first in my life before my husband left me. But now, I truly find joy in putting God first and doing my best at living my life for Him.


A lot of people have asked my thoughts about dating and I never really had thought about it. I mean yes, I want to get married one day, but I am trusting God in that. I am not trying to rush into it. I want to be completely over my ex-husband and I want to be the best self I can be for my future husband.


As I read that tweet, my first thought was “this is exactly what I need to be doing now”. I am loving my life right now, but I feel like I am just kind of going with the flow, loving my job and town and friends and all, but I don’t really have a plan. This is my plan. My plan is to fall in love with Jesus and trust the rest will fall into place. Because I know it will.


I dated my husband for 3 years but liked him for a solid 5 before then. THAT IS A LONG LONG TIME! I trust God that if I get to get married again, I will be so in love with him. And when I am so in love with him, the best thing I can do for him now is better myself and better my relationship with God. Now is my time to truly work so hard on myself and truly get over my ex-husband, so I can be ready to fully love my future husband when that time comes.


It doesn’t happen overnight. I am very accepting of the fact that my marriage is over. My ex-best friend is gone and I am single as a pringle. I get all of that! But I still am “recovering”. I put that word in quotes because I don’t really know what I am doing right now. I am growing. I am healing. I am doing a lot of things! And those don’t happen overnight! I wish they did, that is for sure!


During this time of healing, growing and learning, I am thankful for all the new things in life. I am in a new city, a new job, a new church and so many new friends. All of these new things are perfect for a new start. A new life after marriage and after divorce. I am excited for what is next! I am excited to trust God in everything and that includes dating.


Recently I was talking to a friend who told me that the time between my divorce and my next relationship is going to be huge when it comes to self-growth. She said she didn’t want me to lose the chance I’ve been given to dig even deeper into exactly who God is developing me into. WHAT!! This is so good.


I heard her say this and my whole mindset changed. God has given me literally a huge chance to let me completely change my life for the better, so why not take full advantage of this. If I were dating now, I would not be focused on God, let's be real. I want to focus now on God and our relationship, so when I am dating, I am ready. I want to be so in love with Jesus, that I can then be so in love with my future husband! Just like the tweet that I mentioned at the beginning. I want to fall in love with Jesus and then fall in love with someone else. Loving Jesus more than anything will absolutely affect how well I love my future husband. THIS IS SO EXCITING!


I know a lot of my readers are not married and then got divorced, but I do know several of you have reached out to me about break-ups. Divorce is like nothing I have ever experienced. It is crazy and will affect your mind in so many ways you didn’t know were possible. There is no way I ever could have understood this feeling until the divorce actually happened. But the closest thing is a break-up. Breaking up suckssss. But there is a reason. He or she just wasn’t the one for you. God is protecting you from more hurt and preparing you for someone even better! Take the time during your break-ups to BETTER. YOUR. SELF. Focus on God. Focus on friends and family. Prepare yourself for what God is planning because I guarantee you it will be so so so good.


Here are a few Bible Verses that really help me with divorce or breaking up. They are super common, but really think about what they mean and the promises God is reminding us.

  • And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28

  • The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Deuteronomy 31:8

  • For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11


Thanks for reading! I am so thankful for the people I get to pray for and their vulnerability by sharing and asking for prayer. It is so powerful and I would love to be praying for you. drop a prayer in the box on the home page, friends!


Xoxo,

Morgan Leigh


P.S. I am LOVING my Etsy shop! This week I am celebrating 500 sales on Etsy and I have had over 150 website orders! Being single isn’t so bad after all🎉

This is a big milestone for me. Etsy has been the best hobby I never knew I needed! 500 sales in less than 6 months is something I’m proud of. I’m thankful The Lord has provided for me in this crazy time of my life!


Of course, I had to have a fun photoshoot so thanks Kenzie for taking my pics!




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